Jump to main content

Supporting Victims/Survivors

我们使用“受害者/幸存者”一词来承认个人可能认同 不同的术语和身份与他们的经历有关. We encourage people 模仿和反映某人使用的语言,可能包括“受害者”、“幸存者”、 or other terminology.

当一个人透露了与他人的性别暴力经历时, 那个人的反应会对个人的康复过程产生重大影响. 一个人的反应可能会影响他们是否会寻求额外的帮助和支持. 有时个人可能会亲自向某人透露,而其他人可能会公开分享 通过网络平台或公开机会说出自己的经历.

任何人都可能遭受基于性别的暴力,无论其身份如何. 不幸的是,边缘化社区的个人往往面临更高的发病率 在寻求帮助和支持方面可能面临额外的困难. 暴力与个人持有的不同身份相交叉,并可能产生影响 人们如何经历暴力和/或骚扰,如何应对创伤,如何获得帮助 支持,做出报告的决定,或者在他们的应对和 healing.

无论你是朋友、家人、住宿顾问、教授还是工作人员, 你可以做一些事情,说一些话来支持那些披露事件的人 to you. 确保你在倾听幸存者分享他们的故事, 验证他们的经验,让他们知道你相信他们,并努力支持他们 decisions surrounding their situation. 尊重个人的隐私是非常重要的 决定他们寻求什么样的帮助和支持,并让他们在他们的 coping and healing.

如果受害者/幸存者表现出任何自杀或自残行为,或者如果你是 担心他们的安全或幸福,你应该寻求专业的危机援助 immediately. You can also:

  • Tips for Family and Friends

    What can I expect?
    犯罪、猝死或其他创伤后最初的震惊是残酷的,而且 painful reality for everyone involved.  However, everyone reacts differently when faced with crisis.  Some common reactions may include:

    • Shock, disbelief, numbness
    • Anxiety, panicky feelings
    • Feeling lost, difficulty concentrating
    • Irritability, tearfulness, or anger
    • Blaming, self-doubt, guilt
    • Sleeping disturbances, loss of appetite
    • Flashbacks, unwanted memories
    • Depression and sadness
    • Withdrawal and isolation
    • Relationship problems
    • Unexplained physical pain
    • Confusion, gaps in memory
    • Difficulty making decisions
    • 注意力不集中,容易分心
    • Disassociation with surroundings

    要了解更多博天堂官方网站创伤的知识,请考虑以下资源:
    Help Guide: Emotional and Psychological Trauma
    RAINN: Sexual Violence Effects

    More Support Tips for Friends and Family

    What can Family and Friends Do?
    记住,你爱的人刚刚经历了一个压力事件,无论如何 how they may be acting now. 

    • Listen carefully to them.
    • Allow them to share what they are feeling.
    • Do what you can to help them feel safe.
    • 避免那些可能会让受害者觉得自己应该为犯罪负责的言论.
    • Reassure them that it was not their fault.
    • 让他们重新掌控自己的生活,并在他们身边支持他们.

    关心受害者的人通常也会感到压力.  Do not be afraid to seek help for your own needs.

  • Tips for Employees

    作为一名教职员工,你可能是学生或同事信任的人 to share their experience. 要了解一个有过这种经历的人是很难的 gender-based violence. 重要的是要记住他们可能有他们的权力和 control taken away from them during the experience. You can help them start to regain 通过倾听他们来控制,询问他们是否需要信息和选择,以及 always respect their decisions.

    你应该让披露信息的人知道,如果你是强制性的记者 school and/or a  Campus Security Authority. Being transparent about your level of 保密对于让受害者/幸存者选择自己的道路很重要 are most comfortable with.

    每个人在经历创伤事件后的反应和康复方式都不同. It is 重要的是要记住,他们的愈合没有时间限制,并且要继续 在他们继续处理和愈合的过程中给予支持. The best course of action to 帮助某人是问他们需要什么,并提供他们与专业人士联系 support. 下面是一些如何帮助别人的建议:

    Do's:

    • 相信他们告诉你的,并让他们知道你相信他们.
    • 当他们说话时倾听,当他们表达感情时让他们感到舒适.
    • Validate their feelings. 向他们保证,他们为生存所做的一切都是正确的 them.
    • 提供资源,但支持他们做出的任何选择.
    • Counteract self-blaming statements.
    • Help the survivor build a strong support network.
    • Validate their experience and their feelings.
    • 让他们根据自己的喜好多分享或少分享.
    • 支持他们博天堂官方网站报告或不报告的决定.
    • 认识到他们有权给自己的经历贴上最适合自己的标签.

    Dont's:

    • Make statements that question their experience.
    • Invalidate their pain and suffering.
    • Get impatient if they don’t immediately “recover”.
    • 让他们为犯罪者的行为负责.
    • 责备或羞辱他们,因为他们在一开始就成为性虐待或性侵犯的目标 place.
    • Be judgmental.
    • Interrogate them—you are not investigators.

    重要的是要继续检查个人. 和他们谈谈,看看什么对下一步最有帮助. Sometimes individuals 想要谈论和处理他们的经历,有时他们想要朝着 恢复正常的日常生活、互动等. Be open to their decisions and provide as much support as you can.  

    Employees can seek support from the Assault Survivors Advocacy Program (ASAP) and the 机构公平与合规办公室(OIEC)

    要了解更多博天堂官方网站支持学生或同事的信息,请考虑以下资源:

    RAINN: Help Someone You Care About
    全国家庭暴力热线:帮助朋友和家人
    Love is Respect: Help a Coworker
    Responsible Employee Information
    Ways Faculty and Staff can support

  • Taking Care of Yourself

    支持有过性经历的朋友、家人、同事或学生 攻击、人际暴力和/或跟踪可能会很棘手,而且会产生影响 on the individual providing support. It is important to prioritize your self-care so that you can support them. 即使个人还没有准备好寻求帮助, you can access confidential support for yourself. Here are some resources that can 帮助你处理,探索影响,并与你可能需要的帮助和支持联系. These resources can offer guidance


    性侵幸存者倡导计划(ASAP) /校内/保密/ M-F 9a.m. – 5 p.m.

    ASAP Website / ASAP Email / Main: 970-351-1490 / 24/7: 970-351-4040

    • Located within Cassidy Hall 2nd Floor (1901 10th Ave)
    • 要预约,你可以打电话或发邮件给办公室. Walk-ins are available M-F 9 a.m. – 5 p.m.
    • 该资源面向所有学生(本科生、研究生、专业和博士), faculty, staff, alumni, and concerned others

    监察员- Johnny Armijo /校内/非保密/预约

    Ombuds Email / Phone: 970-351-1367

    • Located in Student Affairs and Equity & Inclusion (1862 10th Ave)
    • This resource is for all faculty and staff
    • To make an appointment visit here

    博天堂官方咨询中心/校内/保密/ M-F上午8:00 -下午12:00 & 1:00 am -5:00 pm

    Counseling Center Website / Counseling Center Email / Office and After-Hours Phone: 970-351-2496

    • Contact for Employee Assistance Programs (EAP)
    • Located within Cassidy Hall 2nd Floor (1901 10th Ave)
    • 要安排初次访问,您可以致电或提交一份 initial consultation form
    • 紧急危机援助的上门服务时间为上午9点至11点 1:00 pm to 4:00 pm
    • 该资源面向所有学生(本科生、研究生、专业和博士), faculty and staff

    科罗拉多州反性侵犯联盟(CCASA) /保密电话

    CCASA Website / CCASA Email / Phone: 303-839-9999

    • 不为受害者/幸存者提供直接服务,但可以帮助寻找其他服务 direct service providers.
    • 服务包括:向直接服务提供者提供适当的转介

    RAINN / Confidential by phone/ Available 24/7

    RAINN Website / 24/7 Hotline: 1-800-656-4673

    • Services include: information about sexual assault, abuse, and incest; 24/7 crisis 可以通过电话或在线聊天,了解州立法,并提供信息 博天堂官方网站同意教育和预防的额外资源

    全国家庭暴力热线/保密电话,短信,或在线聊天/ Available 24/7

    Domestic Violence Hotline Website /电话:1-800-799-7233 /短信线路:短信“START”至88788

    • 服务包括:博天堂官方网站家庭暴力的信息,如何支持受害者, 庇护所和援助信息,以及安全规划
  • What can a trauma response look like?
    • Flashbacks: 暂时与现实和感觉失去联系,好像你正在重温创伤 in the present moment
    • Dissociation: 脱离现实,有些人称之为“灵魂出窍”的体验
    • Hypervigilance: 过度关注周围环境,好像你所有的感官都处于高度戒备状态
    • Intrusive Thoughts or Memories: 创伤的想法或记忆是压倒性的,使它很难 think about other things
    • Nightmares: 不愉快或可怕的梦,通常直接或间接与创伤有关

    对于个体来说,有内部或外部的提醒线索(触发器)并不罕见。 of the event. These can occur through any of the five senses.

    人们通常会用不同的方式描述他们当时是否做出了回应 of a trauma. 当一个人的大脑和身体意识到他们不再有感觉 安全或舒适,他们可能会以几种不同的方式做出反应. There is no “right” 他们的任何回应都是有效的. Sometimes individuals describe their response in these ways:

    Fight Response

    Fight types protect themselves from threat through conflict.
    那些倾向于战斗反应的人认为,如果他们建立了权力 the threat, it will result in security and control.
    可能表明这种创伤反应的行为有:

    • Crying
    • Hands in fists, desire to punch
    • Flexed/tight jaw, grinding teeth
    • Fight in eyes, glaring, fight in voice
    • Desire to stomp, kick, smash with legs, feet
    • Feelings of anger/rage
    • Knotted stomach/nausea, burning stomach

    Flight Response

    Flight types protect themselves from threat through escape.
    那些参与这种创伤反应的人,通过逃跑或逃跑来应对威胁 the situation.
    可能表明这种创伤反应的行为有:

    • Restless legs, feet /numbness in legs
    • Anxiety/shallow breathing
    • Big/darting eyes
    • Leg/foot movement
    • 报告或观察到烦躁、不安、被困住的感觉

    Freeze Response

    冻结类型保护自己免受威胁 dissociation.
    当面对威胁时,那些倾向于这种创伤反应的人 通过“冻结”或间隔,无意识地脱离情境.
    可能表明这种创伤反应的行为有:

    • Feeling stuck in some part of the body
    • Feeling cold/frozen, numb, pale skin
    • Sense of stiffness, heaviness
    • Holding breath/restricted breathing
    • Sense of dread, heart pounding
    • Decreased heart rate (can sometimes increase)

     小鹿反应(该领域较新,未被研究)

    Fawn types protect themselves from threat through placation.
    那些倾向于讨好的人通过“取悦他人”来避免或处理冲突.”
    可能表明这种创伤反应的行为有:

    • Over apologizing to others
    • Difficulty saying no
    • Excessive flattering the other person
    • Going out of the way to please others
    • Neglecting one’s own needs
    • Pretending to agree with others

    For more information on Trauma response visit the Human Relations Institute & Clinics

  • What are some ways to manage a trauma response?

    闪回,过度警惕,侵入性的想法或记忆,以及噩梦都是 common reactions to a traumatic event or experience. They take individuals out of 现在和经常让他们觉得好像他们正在重温事件. Using grounding 技巧和练习正念可能对有过这种经历的人有所帮助 trauma responses. It can also help to connect with professional support in exploring effective coping strategies. Below are a few exercises individuals might 在当下找到帮助自己的方法.

    Shift your sensory experience(s)

    视力:你在任何地方都能看到的5样东西? Describe them in detail.
    口味:喝冷的或热的东西,吃甜的或酸的东西会带来什么 you into the present?
    Touch: Do you have an animal you can pet? Or a stress ball or toy you can fidget with? 你能把一块冰从一只手移到另一只手上吗? Can you go outside and notice any change in temperature or sit in the sun?
    气味:你能把注意力转移到香薰油的气味上吗? candles, or your favorite food? Do you have a scented bar of soap you can smell?
    Sounds: What do you hear in this moment? Is there someone you trust you can call to talk? Do you have a playlist? 你能尝试一款手机应用程序来冥想或舒缓情绪吗 sound?

    Reorient yourself to the present space and time

    Ask yourself questions such as:
    Where am I?
    What is today?
    What is the date?
    What is the weather like?
    我今天已经做了什么或者打算做什么?

    有时人们发现做一些舒适或分散注意力的事情很有帮助,比如 as:

    Seeking social support
    Listening to music
    Curl up under a blanket
    Cuddling with a pet or stuffed toy
    Taking a bath
    使用艺术、日志或其他创造性的方式来处理
    Calling a support person
    Engaging in a spiritual practice
    Watching a non-triggering movie or show
    Reading a book
    Practicing self-compassion

    要了解更多博天堂官方网站管理和应对创伤的知识,请考虑以下资源:

    帮助指南:应对情感和心理创伤
    Love is Respect: Grounding Exercises
    RAINN: Self-Care After Trauma

  • Violence and Identities 

    任何人都可能遭受基于性别的暴力,无论其身份如何. 不幸的是,边缘化社区的个人往往面临更高的发病率 在寻求帮助和支持方面可能面临额外的困难.  暴力与个人持有的不同身份相交叉,并可能产生影响 人们如何经历暴力和/或骚扰,如何应对创伤,如何获得帮助 支持,做出报告的决定,或者在他们的应对和 healing.

    骚扰,性暴力,人际暴力,性剥削和跟踪 涉及个人之间权力和控制动态的不平衡. Identities such 由于种族、阶级、能力和性别经常被用来维持不健康和虐待 power over an individual and perpetrate harm. Individuals who cause harm and engage 在暴力中这种方式也可能利用某人的身份来反对他们,阻止某人 reporting or seeking help. 受各种形式暴力影响的个人是 专家在他们的经验和可能有各种不同的需求相关或 与他们的性别、性取向、种族、宗教、国籍、能力等无关 other identities. 

    本网站包含的校园和社区资源可以帮助个人 处理他们的经验和影响,并帮助确定具体的支持和资源 to their needs.